Sunday, April 7, 2013

Change is in the air (and so is pollen)

Things have changed in my life.

The most exciting change is that I own a new car!! My dad drove it down to Tucson for me this weekend. It is a 2007 Honda Civic. It's really cute and it smells like coffee on the inside.

I bought it from the original owner and she gave me a great deal. I'm super thankful that she was willing to sell it to me for as little as she did. I hope it lasts years.

The next biggest change (though not exciting) is that Roland and I aren't dating anymore. It was a mutual agreement between us. He needs to go to school and felt that he couldn't do that while dating me. And it will be good for me to be independent for a bit.

It has been a really really really hard transition. He was part of my every day for a year and a half, and now we aren't talking. (We're not mad at each other or anything, but trying to redraw a line from relationship to friendship is really hard, so we're taking a little cleanse from each other.) I miss him and his jokes and the time we would spend together. But I know that in a few months I will be absolutely fantastic. I'm looking forward to that time.

It has been interesting for me to see how I can interact in groups. When I was in groups with Roland I felt like a bridge between him (he can be a little introverted sometimes) and other people. I didn't mind that role at all, but without having to do that I am much more social than I remembered being.

My friends have been incredible. They have kept me busy and distracted and let me cry (a lot) to them. I'm thankful to have the friends that I do.

I think I am sick. I woke up this morning with a sore throat and it isn't getting better. That's a big bummer.

General conference was this weekend! I wasn't able to focus on it like I would have enjoyed to, but what I have heard has been wonderful. I am looking forward to reading the talks and studying them daily.

That is it in my life. My brain is fuzzy. I'm going to take a nap.

Chanda C.

Saturday, March 9, 2013

My Lambo

I came home to Lakeside this weekend (well, it is actually Show Low now because my dad moved. But there are trees and so I am happy).

I kept feeling like I shouldn't drive my car, but I couldn't remember why. So this morning Mel (my little sister, who had been dropped off the night previous), Luna, and I hopped in my tender little '88 Toyota Camry and started driving. Once we got out of Oro Valley it started snowing/raining. I couldn't tell if they were flakes or drops, but there was snow on the ground.

It started to get a little cold so I reached down to turn on my heater and then I remembered why I had felt like I shouldn't drive my car... My heater only works sometimes. I can't figure out what inspires it to be hot, or how that goes away... But sometimes my heater works more like a cooler.

It wasn't too bad, and I didn't have cell service so I kept driving. Once I got to Globe I called my dad and asked him what I should do. He told me to go to an auto parts store and ask them to check my radiator fluid and buy more/refill it if it was low.

I don't really like using my good looks to manipulate others, but desperate times call for desperate measures.

I went to Auto Zone in Globe and walked in while Mel and Luna waited in the car. A gentleman behind the counter said hello and asked how he could help me. I told him that the heater in my Lamborghini wasn't working and asked if he would mind taking a look. Then I told him that I had lied, my car was an '88 Camry but I figured it would be easier to get someone to help me if they thought they'd be working on a nice car.

He checked my fluid for me, it was fine. I guess something is wrong with the heater valve or thermometer or something? I don't know.

I thanked the Auto Zone guy and called my dad to see what my next move was. My plan, which I happily introduced to my dad, was to go to Wal*Mart and buy one of the space heaters that I can plug into my cigarette lighter but he said that was a stupid idea (bummer).

Instead, I ghetto-rigged my car as per my dad's instructions on the phone. The conversation went something like this:

D: See the radiator?
C: I see where the tube is connected to the cap that the guy used to check my fluid. Is that connected?
D: That's the radiator.
C: That is what I thought. There was a stolen one in my car when it got stolen.
D: Okay, now you'll need a piece of cardboard.
C: I have a paper whole foods grocery bag, will that work?
D: Yeah, okay. They like recycling so it should be heavy duty. Now you need to put that in the space between the radiator and the "___" (I can't remember what he called the other thing).
C: Is this safe? I feel like that space is there for a reason.
D: Yeah, just WATCH YOUR TEMPERATURE GAUGE. YOU COULD OVERHEAT SO EASILY BECAUSE OF THIS.
C: What is this doing?
D: Blocking some air from your radiator. People have done this for years.
C: Okay. I'm going to send you a picture before I drive this. It looks sketchy. Is it going to catch on fire? Is it blocking too much air? What if it overheats? It is so cold.
D: It looks great. The air blowing past will be 20 degrees, it won't catch on fire. CHECK YOUR TEMPERATURE GAUGE RELIGIOUSLY OR YOU MIGHT DIE.

So, I did that. And I stayed just warm enough to not have frost bite. Then my dad drove my car and the heater was plenty warm for him. I don't know what happened.

And tonight I bought boots. Warm, winter, ugly boots. No regrets though. My feet were freezing.
My spring break is less springy than I would want.

I'm so happy to be with my dad though. We got Pizza Factory. And I've seen someone I know everywhere we have gone. Ha ha. (No joke, when we were at Big 5 getting the boots I heard someone say "Yeah, it is Chanda" and then go in the back. No idea who it was.)

Lakeside. Love/hate. Always.

Chanda

Sunday, March 3, 2013

My paranoia: confirmed

Just to be sure everyone knows-- I was a really paranoid child.

My parents grounded me from reading The Reader's Digest because it would scare me so much that I couldn't sleep ("The Rapist Next Door," etc).

Also, I cried every time my family went on a car ride with only one parent, because I was certain that that parent would have a heart attack and I wouldn't be able to drive (and I certainly didn't trust Wade to do it). I would sit in the car the whole time and cry and ask whoever was driving if they were feeling okay, and to pull over if they had any sort of pain anywhere.

This lasted until well into my teenage years. I loved babysitting, but as soon as the kids went to bed I would end up curled on the couch terrified that someone was going to break into the house and kill the children. I usually ended up calling my parents and one of them would come sit with me until my shift was over.

I was probably a real blast to take care of.

I've gotten better though. I can talk myself out of freaking out. I still have some tendencies (like when I turn off the light in my kitchen, I run to my bedroom because I'm a little afraid of the dark).

Anyway, point is, I am not as scared as I used to be but I'm still probably more scared than most people.
I'm thankful for that though. It has caused me to be hyper-vigilant in certain situations.

One of my student jobs is off-campus. Parking permits are into the $500 range but a bus pass is only $100. So I ride the bus to/from campus and my job about three times a week.

Last semester I noticed some erratic behavior from a guy in a big maroon truck. When he saw me at the bus stop, he would turn into the parking lot for the Pizza Hut that is right behind the stop. His turning seemed to be based on the fact that I was there-- it was erratic and not planned out. He occasionally would cat-call or whistle or wave, but I always just ignored him. Sometimes he was with another guy also. This happened probably 2-3 times a month. While I thought it was weird, and it creeped me out a little, I never sensed that I was in real danger.

This semester I hadn't seen Truck Guy at all. But Wednesday, when I was at the bus stop in the middle of the day, he saw me again. I want to note that he was going north when he saw me, and I was waiting for the bus which was going south- that will be important later. He pulled into the parking lot really fast and started waving at me and gesturing for me to go over to his truck. I ignored him and got closer to the other person at the bus stop (a stranger reading a book) and hoping that Truck Guy would let me be. He kept calling out to me and telling me to go to him and I kept ignoring him.

Then HE OPENED HIS TRUCK DOOR and got out and started walking towards me. As I noticed I called Roland (assuming he would act like Liam Neeson in the situation-- I can dream, right? Logic was gone.). RIGHT then, the bus pulled up. The other guy at the stop let me get on first and I was out of the situation.

Now, as I mentioned before, I was heading south (towards campus) and the truck had previously been headed north. But Truck Guy decided it was a good idea to follow me. He pulled up next to the bus and, at the next stop light, stopped where he was level with where I was in the bus. He kept gesturing at me and we were close enough that I could tell that I definitely did NOT recognize him. When the light turned green and the bus started going, he sped off.

I'm fine, but definitely a little more paranoid than I was last week. A big worry of mine is that he obviously knows where I am headed (I always have my backpack with me) and that he knows the area where I work and what time I catch the bus. A bigger worry of mine is that he is probably doing this to other girls. I did nothing to ever elicit attention from this man so there is no reason he would choose me and only me to behave weird around.

I submitted a police report (that was unfortunately vague as I can't trust myself to remember the make/model of his truck and I've never seen his license plate).

I told my boss at my off-campus job about the incident and he and my coworkers were extremely kind in their willingness to walk me to, and wait with me at, the bus stop or drive me to campus if necessary. He also brought a camera when he walked me and was ready to take pictures if the guy showed up again. They also gave me strict instructions to call the police if the guy ever pulls up again and to make it known that I am taking pictures.

I am incredibly appreciative of their willingness to help me.

My boss has personal reasons to be particularly responsive to dangerous-bordering-on-stalker situations and I am so so grateful that he was there to hear my story and respond.

As I told them the story they mentioned how fortunate it was that the bus pulled up right when I was being physically approached. I know that the timing of the bus that day was a miracle for me. I know that God was watching out for me. I'm thankful to have the coworkers that I do, especially my boss who recognizes the potential danger in my situation.

I told my boss who I work for on campus and she too was incredibly supportive. I've never seen TG on campus, but if I do I know that she will do everything she can to help keep me safe.

I know God protected me on Wednesday. Even if the man had no bad intentions, God knew that I would feel uncomfortable with the situation and He got me out of it.

One of my bosses told me that she will be praying that the situation gets resolved safely. I appreciated her insight. I don't want to always just hope that I don't see TG again, I want him to know that what he did isn't okay and I want him to not do that to anyone else.

I am thankful for the people around me who care enough to tell me I was an idiot for not reporting TG sooner and who knew what to say to inspire me to do something about the situation.

I don't want to sound dramatic about this, maybe the guy thought he knew me or maybe he had no bad intentions, but he crossed the line and I am taking particular caution to keep myself out of a dangerous situation.

So, that is what happened recently. I'm glad I have people who will take care of me and keep me safe and I am glad that I have a Father in heaven who knows what I need and when and is willing to help me out.

That's what is new in my life! #yolo

Chanda :)

Monday, February 18, 2013

My third to last semester

My third to last semester is going just okay.

This one class is killing me, we have weekly quizzes that are really hard. No matter how confident I feel while taking them my grades vary. I've gotten all the way from a 95% to a 70%. I honestly can't figure out what I'm doing wrong.

Other classes are going well though. I've gotten As on most assignments/quizzes. I'm a note-taker for one class, I like being a note-taker because it makes me feel like I have to go to class so I ditch less. Ha ha.

I haven't done too much that is new or different this semester. Most of my weekends are just spent doing homework, grocery shopping, and hanging out with Roland and sometimes his family.

This past weekend I got to go to Mesa and see a lot of my family. I found out that my mom is one of 100+ first cousins, I knew I had a huge family but I hadn't before had a number to quantify it.

My aunt and uncle and their girls from Minnesota were in Mesa, I hadn't seen the girls in over two years. Tianna (their youngest, she is like 14 though so not even young) and I kept confusing people. We look similar (in that we both have blonde hair and the same glasses. And we're about the same height). It was incredible to see how much she and Dayna (age 18) have grown up. I still remember little baby Tianna who liked me more than Taryn (much to the dismay of Taryn). Ha ha.

I got to meet Jessica's (the oldest) son, Bryson. He is cute. The first day he just kind of walked around and held a ball... But he and I both had on Superman shirts- so that was cool. The second day he warmed up to me (probably because it wasn't hard for him to associate me into his good-person schema since I look so much like the rest of them). He would run up to me and hug me and play with me. He thought I was pretty hilarious. Jessica is actually expecting again, she is due in May.

Other news, Wade and Rachael are en-gagged now. They are thinking they will have the wedding the last week of August, which is really awful timing for anyone who is attending school. They haven't yet decided on a location (either NYC, Phoenix, or Paris). I wish them luck in that decision.

My roommate's mom passed away last week, keep her and her family in your prayers please. They are such wonderful people.

I've been able to teach the Gospel Principles class more this semester. I love it. The insights people have into the lessons is absolutely wonderful.

I've been thinking more about what I want to do when I graduate in a year and two months (or so). My roommate Emily pointed me towards being a Child Life Specialist. I think I would really enjoy that. I've looked into it and ASU has the only certificate program in Arizona. So maybe I"ll end up going there for a semester. Who knows?

My goals for the rest of this year are to take steps to progress to where I want to be in the future.
More specifically, I want to be better about going to activities outside of church (even though I usually don't like them, mostly because I have to not wear PJs to them).

Chanda :)

Saturday, December 29, 2012

Christmas Break 2012

Hello!!

I have been on Christmas break for about two weeks now. It's been great.
I got a 4.0 this semester (woohoo!).
I worked for the first week of break, but since last Friday I have been off (University closure).

The past four days (since Christmas) I haven't left my house. It's been glorious. I wake up whenever I want to, watch TV, read (I finished The Casual Vacancy yesterday- thanks Roland!), bake, clean. I've been the happiest person in the world for the past four days.

I've cleaned my bathroom, cleaned the kitchen, watched about 10 episodes of How I Met Your Mother, watched two movies (The Night Before Christmas and Pitch Perfect), baked cookies (Superman hand mixer from Roland helped a lot), baked muffins, made haystacks (butterscotch treats that my Nonnie used to make), I made a delicious dinner last night of grilled chicken, mashed potatoes, cheese rolls, and asparagus (with cinnamon sugar rolls for dessert). I have had no time constraints and I've loved it.

Next week Wade and Rachael are coming into town. It is weird not going to Idaho this break, I miss it. But I am stoked to see my brother (and, of course, Rachael). We will be going to at least one museum, the Gaslight Theatre, various food places, maybe a hike.

I finished my Spanish career at UA, but I do miss it. I really enjoyed learning Spanish and I hope to continue to do so. I really want the Harry Potter books en espanol so I can keep up with what I know.

Oh! So last December I drove (with my friends Lyndsay and Justin) to Houston to see our friend Brittany get married. Well, Brittany is pregnant!!! I am so so excited for her! Also, Lyndsay is in the MTC preparing to serve in Chiclayo Peru (she will be Hermana Batman, so cool).

Today, I break my streak and go outside. I'll be going to watch a movie with Roland. Also, I will probably take out the recycling.

This has been a magical couple of days, I hope I can remember them next semester when I want to implode.

Chanda C.

Thursday, November 29, 2012

I wrote a song today.

Actually, I rewrote the words to Call Me Maybe.

As a student worker I automatically get any University closure dates off work. That's great, except when I don't have plans and need the cash mons. (Un)fortunately, in December I will have more than a week off of work.

Here's my ode to that:

I can wrap presents well,
I am a pro with Excel,
Will watch anything with a tail,
Because I need the pay.

Will watch your offsprin
g,
While you go shopping,
I'll do anything,
Because I need the pay.

Baking, errand running,
Dinner for your hubby,
Watering your lily,
Let me make you less busy.

Hey, holidays are
Pretty crazy
I'd love to help out.
So call me, maybe?

Well, that is it for my song writing capabilities. Let me know if you have anything you need done. My talents include: proofreading, babysitting, cooking, alphabetizing, filing, typing, emailing, Facebooking, dancing, Harry Potter fact knowing, Christmas song singing, pet-sitting, house-watching, oil checking, errand running, shopping, envelope labeling, scripture reading, high school (and below) tutoring, general cheering.





Happy holidays!




Chanda C. :) :) :)

Thursday, November 22, 2012

Obligatory Thanksgiving post

I'll try to keep this a little fresh, everyone is posting what they are thankful for.. But I would be rude to not follow suit.

Tucson: I am thankful for Tucson because we still need to use our AC at the end of November. I miss trees and leaves but I don't miss being cold.

UofA: It is such a blessing in my life to be able to go to a great university on scholarship. Through UA I have two jobs and have met people that have influenced my life in ways I never imagined. I love the Institute program here and I love the opportunities I have been given to grow and learn who I am and what I believe.

Friends: I know everyone says that they have the best friends in the world, and I really do have the best friends for me. The friends who helped me get through high school (even the ones I don't keep in contact with, which is most of them) helped shape me so much. Recently I've seen how much impact friends can have on each other, I'm thankful to have made friends that kept me in line with my goals and encouraged me to be the best that I can be. And now, I am thankful for my friends at UA (even the ones I don't keep in contact with...mostly because a lot of them are married now). My friends keep me keeping on. They're wonderful influences and examples and knowing that they are here for me brings so much joy to my life.

My house/roommates: This overlaps quite a bit. My roommates are wonderful. I love that when we see each other we always have something to say, but we're also good about not being all up in each others' business. We're so different in our personalities but I absolutely love them. I'm lucky to have had this opportunity to live here, with these girls, and be able to have my little dog with me. This house has been wonderful. I am able walk to school and work (or ride the bus) and I get my own room and bathroom and Luna gets a doggy door and we have a giant kitchen. It's wonderful.

Family: Of course, my family. My immediate family really knows how to drive me crazy, but with that they also know how to make me the happiest person alive. I can't wait to see Wade this December (although I will miss going to Idaho). I'm so happy for Taryn (graduating high school). I love that Aaron calls me regularly (even when I usually don't answer). I'm so proud of Melanie and her swimming and schoolwork. My dad sent me a tender birthday card (with an ORANGE envelope!). And my mom almost always picks up when I call her. They're so wonderful. And my extended family is just as good! I love that my aunts and uncles are so willing to help me out however they can. I miss seeing them, but I will see a lot of them in December for our family Christmas FHE and I really look forward to that.

I forgot a few things..

Roland: I'm so thankful that he has been a part of my life this past year. (Last Thanksgiving he joined my family at our meal.) I love how willing he is to do anything he can to help me. He drives me around for errands, he takes me on dates, he drove me to Disneyland, he lets me hang out with (half of) his family, he makes me laugh SO hard, he's so wonderful.

The Gospel: I love the Gospel of Jesus Christ. I am so thankful for the hope and happiness it allows me to feel. I love my ward and my bishop and the scriptures and the leaders of the church. I've been praying about going on a mission, and while I don't feel that it is necessary for me right now, I do hope to serve one day.

I have so much to be grateful for. And now I get to do homework (which isn't something I am generally very thankful for).

Chanda C.